A update from my side: I asked Florian about the spoke: it does not matter how they are put in since the hub is constructed stronger.
I will go back to the ‘natural position’ since the others did not fit to the bend in my spokes and would have made the problem worse. So lacing for a 4th time😅
Hope to be able to lace the wheel tomorrow so I can go into a workshop with the right tools and have it finished by the weekend (currently in the final 2 weeks of my master thesis, so it might also happen next week). And I definitely think I need to put spacers in for the disc.