This thread reminded me of this article I found stumbling around one time. It’s certainly not scientific, but I like the ideas presented in it.
Essentially, it’s talking about/criticizing the fact that fathers get pushed out of the parenting role, yadda, yadda, yadda, and then how fathers are often blamed when the kid’s a screw-up.
There are those who need a “NOT MARRIAGE MATERIAL” tattoo on their foreheads, like the woman in the article. Mostly there are systems to be fought, rather than people.
For the last year the main gender-political media issues has been: “Men always get good jobs” and “Women always get custody of the children after a divorce”.
Reason for both: “They” just want to keep us down and take all good things in life for themselves.
Who wants bother with boring old analytics anyway.
In a oversimplified version:
On average He gets the promotion, and She doesn’t, because you never know when she’ll be away on maternity leave etc etc.
So on average He has more responsibility in his job, and earns more money.
So on average, when she becomes pregnant and they need a bigger apartment etc. Her pay is the one they can more easily do without, and besides he got the promotion while She’s still in her less fulfilling job that She doesn’t mind a break from.
So who takes a few days off when Junior is sick?
So who does Junior feel most attached to?
So who gets to keep living with Junior after the divorce?
Same set of mechanisms keeping them down, so why the hostility? Get to work on how to change the system!
(This rant wasn’t directed at anyone on the forum, it has been sitting at the back of my head since before the thread even started. Thanks for giving me an excuse to get it out. ;))
The belief that anyone but yourself does the right thing largely out of the fear of repercussions cannot be proven, and is a matter of faith. Your view of humanity is one which is constantly weighing the profitability and potential downside of each action, and avoiding the bad action because of the possibility of prosecution.
Personally, I think most do the right thing largely because the wrong thing never occurred to them. Like me. I’m an angel.
Few things can be proven, depending on how you define your terms, but figures trend to show that the certainty of detection is one of the biggest deterrents to criminal activity.
No, your extrapolation of my comments suggests I hold such a view.
My view of humanity, collectively, is if anything rather more negative than that.