I am not going to [dont plan to] have sex before I am married. What are all of your thoughts on this, do you plan on doing it before you are married? Im thinking that most of you will say “if it happens it happens”. If youre not a [un-wed] virgin, do you regret it?
Also, if you are a married man and you lost your virginity [with someone other than your wife] before you were married, do you regret it? How does it effect your relationship with your wife today? Discuss.
i plan on having sex before im married, but if you dont i can honestly say that i respect your decision to do that even though i would never do it
Why?
EDIT: I am asking you this because I want to have opinions and thoughts in this thread. I didnt want you to simply state whether you were going to or not. Otherwise I would have made this a poll.
becus you dont buy a car before test driving it 
I probably will if I can find somebody willing haha. Seriously I don’t really care as long as I really love the person I just don’t wanna be like “hey wanna have sex? ok lets go for it”. So if the person I really loved wanted to wait till after marriage I wouldn’t have much of a choice. So yeah whenever I meet the person I love(depending on what they want to do).
Would you put a deposit down on an apartment without poking around inside it first? Would you buy a car without test driving it? For that matter, would you even buy a pair of shoes without trying them on for fit?
Marraige is a much costlier prospect than an apartment, car, or pair of shoes. Make sure thing work in a very good way, or you will regret it.
as long as u dont regret loosing ur virginity to whoever u loose it to then go for it…
That is also assuming the most import thing in a relationship and or marriage is sex and that is what keeps it together other wise why bother. If your not going to marry people just because they are not good at sex or because they are you need to rethink a bunch of stuff… 
Well another youngin point of view for yallz, I made the mistake of having sex before marriage. I wish that I would only have slept with one person. When you sleep with someone you become one with that person you make a bond with them. It would be best to have the strongest bond with the girl you are to be with the rest of your life. About the test driving scenario, well if youve seen them naked you should be able to know if the juice is worth the squeez. If you must test drive the car, wait til you are engaged if you have to test it out. But hay this is my youngin point of view lol
EDIT: Also, like before marriage isn’y about sex, but partnership as well. Sex should be out of love, and compassion, not for pleasure or lust, if you marry for sex and lust, it will cost you more than not test driving the car later trust me.
I couldnt agree with you more.
I could.
I won’t have sex before I’m married either. It amazes me how lightly some people take this issue, and I always respect people who decide to wait.
And don’t compare finding a wife to shopping for a car. A car is made for driving, but women aren’t made for sex.
And think about this:
Say you’ve waited your whole life, and you meet an amazing woman. You are prepared to get married (or to ask her to marry you), and you find out she hasn’t waited.
How does that make you feel? How does that affect your perceptions of her?
Which marriage?
I think statistics say that 50% of marriages in the USA end in divorce and most of those get married again and 50% of those marriages end in divorce.
Very good point.
Hmm…I guess I phrased my statement wrong then. I suppose the better statement would be “outside of marriage”.
I am not going to have sex before I’m married. Or after. You ask me why? I’ll tell you why. Because I’m not gonna get married, that’s why!
So would I!!!
From an “old geezer” view, having sex before marriage is a good way to understand that sex ain’t the main thing in a relationship (though it may still be important). It can eventually prevent you from getting married “too quicly” because of an ormonal overflow.
You’re young and think marriage is forever… It may sound sad but life ain’t that easy.
Maybe you could have regrets if you decide to have sex before marriage… but you could have regrets NOT to have had sex before getting married as well.
I’ve been living with my “wife” (we are not married but that should come around soon) for more than 10 years, we have 1 “and a half” child, we are happy with each other. We both had sex before meeting each other (nothing to blush about, you can certainly count our “experiences” on one hand’s fingers… as far as I know:o ).
You mean outside some mostly meaningless ceremonial state dreamt up by (old royal) men to ensure they could pass their amassed wealth to their descendants and then managed to strong-arm the church into actually recognising it and giving it some fake value?
Oh yeah, obviously.
It amazes me how much of a heavy issue some people make out of such a simple thing. Do people intentionally avoid other intimate, emotional but non-sexual activities with each other until married?
I was at a wedding a while back at which the majority of the congregation were devout christians. The vicar had evidently tailored his part of the service to match, so was hammering home the theme of “isn’t-marraige-a-wonderful-thing-invented-by-the-church”.
The person I went with was biting their lip throughout, trying to resist mentioning that it was a pagan idea before the church “borrowed” it…