she made a choice too, but i say adoption. you don’t have to fuck up your entire life, but 9 months of your lives to create a LIFETIME for someone… what if your parents had an abortion… damn that would have sucked… wouldn’t it?
Not really. I wouldn’t have lived, so I would have lost nothing.
I was nearly aborted due to a malfunctioning condom (president choice brand:p ). Good thing my mom was ~35, not 16.
Just because a girl has missed her period does not mean that she is pregnant, both a friend of mine and myself have had girls say they were pregnant and even seem very pregnant but it all turned out to be nothing.
When they go through a high period of stress (in his case he dumped her without warning after three years and in mine, she moved to the other side of the globe), particularly when young, it throws off the hormones like mad, and wierd stuff starts happening. Spotting, and missed periods can happen.
Take her to get a real pregnancy test at the hospital, the home pregnancy tests won’t necesarily pick it up, because those rely mostly on hormones and so may bring up false positives.
If you did get her pregnant, well that sucks, but if you have sex thats the risk you are taking, no matter what contraceptive forms you use.
It is up to you and her to figure out the best course of action, not up to the people around you, don’t listen to anyone but her and yourself and remember ultimately its her choice, so don’t be an ass and do something stupid.
Also if she is pregnant and you are going to have the child, don’t drop out of school, thats retarded, imagine how much worse its gonna make it for your life not having your high school, just talk to your parents and hers, and look in the community for programs to help you.
Good luck.
If you have a kid at a young age, at least in Ontario, you can get into a program that will pretty much give you money for everything you need.
Enough to rent a small apartment and pay for food. And if you aren’t one of those idiots who spends their money of stuff they don’t need, you’ll be fine.
Thanks Nathan for typing all that out, I didn’t want to be the one to explain it.
Daaam. Haha so GLAD im not you:)
I know it sounds bad but seriously I feel for ya bro
The problem with adoption is that there are a LOT of unwanted orphan children in this world already, and putting your kid up for adoption is just one more unwanted orphan child. Living in foster care can be just as bad of a life as growing up with teenage druggies as parents.
Then there’s the world population thing too, the world does not need more people. The best idea is to just not get pregnant, which is easy enough with birth control, but it’s too late for that now…toooooooo late…
stfu, a life in a home that is not as good as it culd have had is better then no life at all
sorry but I just have to ask… is this a joke? seriously? I was just looking through your post history and it seems like something you would pull… that’s just being stereotypical and judging by your post history… if it isn’t… then tough luck man and I’m sorry that it all ended up this way for you… do whatever you and your girlfriend feel is right, best of luck to the two of you…
you culd of just sent me a PM and asked this
but no its not a joke
yeah i could have… sorry man should have thought first, best of luck man… seriously…
Firstly, find out if she’s really pregnant. I’m sure that in the UK anyway, home testing kits are as reliable as hospital tests. So I would try whatever’s the fastest option. You need to know ASAP what the situation actually is.
Secondly, it doesn’t have to be the end of the world. I got pregnant when I was 17. Now I have a great job, a BSc, an MSc and in October I will have a doctorate. I have three children and am happily married. Along the way I have had a divorce and another job that I loved. I have done lots of studying. I have worked hard. I have never regretted it. (Well except perhaps on the two occassions that she showed up drunk at a family party 
). My daughter is now 24 and is a fantastic human being.
Having a child a aged 16 isn’t the end of the world (although it did feel like it at the time). You have a lot of life left to be living this certainly wont be the end of it.
Probably telling your mum might be a good thing (although you will know that better than me). I was terrified to tell my parents but when I did they were shocked but supportive. They protected me from the dad’s parents who wanted me to have an abortion.
good luck. And make the best out of whatever the situation turns out to be.
Read Cathy’s post above - then re-read it until you’ve learnt it! Her advice is spot on.
One: find out if she is pregnant or not. Girls stop having periods for all sorts of reasons, especially when they’re young. My wife stopped when she was about sixteen and didn’t start again for another fourteen years - probably because she was underweight tending towards anorexic.
Two: it’s not a disaster if you’re able to be positive. Look on the bright side, by the time you’re in your thirties your kids will have left home! It must seem a long time away now, but you’re still young enough then to do whatever you want.
Good luck!
I disagree. You have been extremely candid about your love for one of the worst drugs out there. I’m not going to comment on your actual parenting skills (you could be an infinitely better parent me), but those skills don’t matter if you’re spending money on things that could get you jailed, and time being wasted.
Whether you personally like me or not, Brendan, for the sake of your future child, don’t ignore what I’m saying. If y’all decide to keep the baby (and especially if y’all try to finish school), you won’t have free time or money to screw around with ecstasy.
How in the world can you make that prediction? You have no serious and possible way of prognosticating the future for yourself, let alone the life of someone else. If you were serious about your statement, you live in an extremely narrow world, my friend.
I agree with you a little, in that it’s possible the kid will be a perfectly normal adult…but judging by Brendon’s past posts, about taking ecstasy among other things, it sounds like he’s not going to be a model parent. And it’s no secret that when people have children before they’re ready, the child grows up in an impoverished home more often than in the case of a planned pregnancy.
I agree. But Mr. Riot used a definite “will not” in his post, a blind, knee-jerk, and disposable reaction in my opinion in a discussion about the future life of a child.
You used the word “judging” with which I find no disagreement. Past performance if often indicative of future actions. But, people have accomplished the unthinkable and proffered great contributions to society, science or other venues during or after surviving down and out growing up years.
Just the process of thinking through it all is an opportunity for maturity for young Brendon. And, speaking from personal experience, having a child can drastically change a person. Besides, as suggested by other posts in this thread, who says that Brendon will be the Daddy of the child?
if this isnt some kind of joke, your really gonna hafta clean your life up…thats kinda scary tho your only a year older than me and you have a kid…maybe you should get him a unicycle
tat sucks dude. wish you both the best and whatever decision you make just dont regret it… i guess. and its pretty crazy that you tell us before you tell your mom, guess we are just that special…
update
yeh so shes pregnant, she sed she got one of those things that you pee on and it tells you if your pregnant or not, shes gonna go to the doctor soon though i gess,
im gonna tell my mom today afteer church, If i survive that ill let you guys know how it goes 
The best thing that ever happened to me was my daughter, and still is.