How about you?
The fear of losing is terrible. I am afraid of not being good enogh. Not good enogh to show what I could acheeve. Or I just might have a bad day.
Losing hurts and I am sure, I will lose at Unicon18. Maybe more sure about losing than anybody else.
But this is not the only reason. I don´t act out of fear.
I know i might lose because I choose to compete at freestyle with my performance LOSER. But as far as I know I am the only one who tries to lose at Unicon18. All other loser will be selected surprisingly at the end of each event. This might feel very painful. An experiance i would love to avoid.
I collected some ideas that help to stop to create losers and i would be happy if you ad your ideas and you experiance here in this post.
Or maybe you disagree. Do you have other opinions. Do you think it is good to have winners and losers? Please join the discussion.
I don’t fear losing anymore. I used to hate losing when i was younger… To try your best and know that it wasn’t good enough… But now that I’m older its not so much about losing anymore, its about being better than I was before. It helps motivate me to do better than last time even if i still don’t win or even place hopefully I learn more than I did before.
I don’t think losing hurts anyone. Everyone cannot win. I plan on going to NAUCC next year just to compete and see where I’m at. Losing in anything isn’t bad. And in such a helpful and in a community like unicycling I don’t think losing is anything to be ashamed of. Everyone here on this site is more than happy to help each other get better and succeed at whatever they’re trying to do.
You already win just by being there. Austria is a lot closer to UNICON than Australia.
I am overjoyed today because I got a message telling me that the 2016 Australian Championships are to be held only 300 km away from my home. I will be able to take a full set of unis, spend some time with other unicyclists and see some fantastic riding.
It wouldn’t really bother me to come last. Any success will be a bonus.
I went to the 2014 championships (the last time I saw another uni rider) with the same attitude, having only been riding for a few months and with only three weeks for some serious training. Came home with a second place in the 10 km Standard wheel masters.
I think you are a little obsessed with the idea of being a loser. Feeling like a loser is the same as feeling like being happy. It’s a choice. Being a loser is not the same thing as not being the winner. Because you can’t win if you don’t try. To try is, in a sense, to win. Better to have tried, and done something, than to have not tried, or to have done nothing.
In any case, I will be there to watch your Loser performance, and if I understand your intention, I hope you don’t win.
Whatever happens, I will do my best to take excellent pictures of your performance. Someday I may even return to the Freestyle arena (my last entry was 1994). I may not win, but neither will I lose!
Yes, some of you would be good losers and maybe would not call themself like this. You might have found a good way that works for you. (like make sure you allways win)
But just because you don´t have this fear, does not mean it is not there for others.
For example oneneedsone a little while ago, when he also had this understandable fear and hated to lose.
He made it, great to have you still in our community. But that was very lucky.
How about the weak, unexperienced and sensible unicyclists? or riders that go for there first Unicon and do not have great support? Why do we treat them so terrible?
We know competition is going to hurt them. And what do we do?
We don´t know what to do, so we do nothing.
Maybe we do not even realize what we do, because non of us personally did something bad. But all together we created a painful environment for our losers.
Secretly we are ashame of our losers, so we do not event talk about it.
Yes, I believe at Unicon we do much better than in other sports,
But we are still not aware of how much pain all the competition brings to our community unintentional.
Did someone treat you badly at Unicon? Or another uni competition? I’ve only been able to watch online, but from what it seems everyone is pretty supportive pre, during, and post competition. No one is ashamed of those who dont place. If they were I dont think we’d have nearly as many returners nor as many that come back and eventually place.
It feels more like you had a bad experience based on your last post.
I do wish you luck on your performance though, I watched and its very artistically done.
If this is your first unicon, I can see why you think that. You wont be afraid of losing/not-winning/are-we-even-losing? after this. My first Unicon was a little stressfull too. I wasn’t aiming to win or anything, but having competition is always stressful. And then you find out that everybody is awesome and you never loose at uni conventions.
Wait a minute. Aren’t you David Weichenberger? I’m still trying to figure out your game here. Anxiety about not winning? To win at today’s Unicons is a very rare thing, because there are so many excellent riders! You can’t play with a guarantee of winning, you can only play to do your very best that day. If you did your best possible effort for that day, you cannot be a loser, except in your head.
… or follow any of the links to his web site posted above
This thread is really funny, considering.
Well, there is alight at the end of the tunnel: Karin might win the Academy Awards in the Foreign Film category:)